If you’ve ever thought, “Maybe I should try something new in bed,” but didn’t know where to start, you’re not alone. Luckily, spicing things up doesn’t have to mean diving headfirst into a Fifty Shades scenario. Think of it more like trying a new workout class: unfamiliar at first, but potentially life-changing.
To help, I’ve put together some sex-educator-approved beginner tips, with a little help from the team at SpiceRack, a sex-positive marketplace. It’s like a spicy Etsy! This isn’t an ad (no affiliate links, no payment, just good vibes). SpiceRack is sharing their best advice and offering some fun giveaway items for Fitzness readers, so let’s get into it!
Start with Pleasure and Care
Massage candles, bath elixirs, and shower steamers can be simple, low-stakes ways to shift your mindset from stressed to sexy. Light a candle, turn on a playlist that makes you feel good, and see where the vibe takes you.
“Our ‘Pleasure & Care’ category is full of beginner-friendly products that ease people into exploration,” says Avi, the founder of SpiceRack. “It’s curated with bestselling essentials, beginner-friendly toys, and intimate wellness items. It’s where comfort meets curiosity.”
Talk About It (Even If It’s Awkward)
Whether you’re solo or partnered, naming your desires can be a huge turn-on. That might mean texting your partner a fantasy you’ve never said out loud, or just journaling about what turns you on. Exploration starts with honesty, even if it’s just with yourself.
Choose Products That Excite, Not Intimidate
No one’s first bedroom accessories need to be intimidating. Some bestsellers for beginners include:
- Massage oil candles: Light them for scent, then use the melted wax as warm massage oil.
- Cute,vibrators: Silicone dildos in artsy colors? Yes please.
- Couples kits: Think intimacy games or shared bath products
Dress the Part
Sometimes, spicing things up means slipping into something you wouldn’t normally wear. SpiceRack stocks lingerie for all people. Finding an outfit that makes you confident can set the mood to play.
Trust The Product
When buying sexual wellness products, it’s really important to vet the seller. Unlike food or medicine, there isn’t a governing body like the FDA or WHO ensuring these items are safe. That means the responsibility often falls on the consumer and the seller to do their due diligence.
On SpiceRack, while individual sellers are responsible for using body-safe materials, the platform doesn’t just let anyone set up shop. Each store is reviewed before joining, especially if they sell insertables, lubricants, or skin-contact gear. Plus, SpiceRack curates its selection of high-quality products from top industry brands. It’s not a free-for-all. It’s a thoughtfully designed space where trust, transparency, and safety are part of the shopping experience.
Want to Try Something for Free?
In celebration of our collaboration, we’re giving away three goodies from SpiceRack’s shop, perfect for your first dip into the pleasure pool. To enter, follow @gingerr_and_spice and find the giveaway post! Follow the instructions in the caption and you’ll be entered to win one of these three products:
Whether you’re looking to bring more connection to your relationship or just want to feel more at home in your own body, sexual wellness is a valid and valuable part of your health. And just like any other wellness journey, it starts with one small, curious step.
Go ahead. Spice things up! You deserve it.
